Myself I think there are a lot of other options. However, one thing I was not clear on.... whats the ultimatum exactly. What do you have to do in those 2 years, or are you out anyway??
If that's the case, then Id say option #3 is take your power back! From the sounds of it you are emotionally abused. I'm sorry if that is harsh, but no one has the right to talk to anyone that way, no matter the circumstance. :S
Ask yourself, is this the life you want? Is this how you want to be treated, and how you want your marriage to continue. Can you settle?? Is this what you want for the rest of your marriage?
