My wife is telling me emphatically that she wants a divorce. She is not willing to attend any marriage counseling sessions, nor read any of the marriage books I have bought her. She just wants out.
I am trying to change myself from the "doormat" described above. I am trying to establish boundaries within my relationship with her, and take control of my life, and my portion of the relationship. I have tried only small steps so far. But they have not gone over well.
Unfortunately, my wife will not accept that. She expects the doormat back. She has screamed at me, ranted and raved, and used every type of obscenity imaginable, as I try to do this. She has used expressions such as "f you" and "stick it up...." You get the point.
Now she has hit me with an ultimatum: either I need to leave in the next 2 years, or she will throw me out. Effectively, she has given me a timeline, until she will divorce me. I have two years left, and after both of our children are out of the house, she is going to toss me aside. She doesn't care what I think, at this point.
What should I do in these circumstances? Should I go back to the weak, passive man that I was before? Is this the only way to save my marriage, under these circumstances? Or should I continue this process, and see my marriage slowly deteriorate to nothing? Those seem like the only 2 options at this point. Any other suggestions?
