Maybe I should be in piecing part 2?

[Hope4us]

Which is all good. I see such conflict in her. And that conflict is good IMHO. I see her having feelings for me but that would mean that the affair was a waste and she's not ready to face that yet. But it's coming. I can see it. I just have to be patient.

BINGO!

Nothing like feeling like the world's biggest fool when you were sooooo sure that you were different. I guess it would be easy to say that women like us deserve to feel that way...but it's very hard.

I was someone else's MLC/revenge affair/fantasy... I'm getting fitted for my dunce cap Friday...

Thanks BW, I'm sure you haven't read all my threads and I take no joy in saying this, but my W's OM was/is a player. He's had at least 4 affairs that his W knows about and if there's that many she knows about, how many are there she doesn't know about. And my W was warned by one of the guys she works the first week after we relocated to be careful with OM because he's always fishing and she fell for it anyway. OM told her he was going to divorce his W so they could be together when he already had ANOTHER GF in the location he'd moved to. So in addition to my W, he had a new GF and was cheating on his W with both.

That has to be a tough thing to deal with. Being ready to throw out a marriage of 23 years for your "soulmate" who is really just using you and telling you everything you want to hear with no intentions of anything permanent.

Thanks for posting.

Kat, Thanks again for your support. I sure hope you're right. And you just might be. Tonight we were talking about a peer friend of mine from work who's wife left him and as best he can tell is now hookin for money. And she wants way more than half of his retirement and 401k plan. My W was just shaking her head about it all and making comments like she finally gets it.

So we'll see...