I e-mailed H yesterday in the end to ask him for his help with this thing I need. it took him a while to respond but when he did he said he'd help me and also said three times that he'd been thinking about me and wondering how I was. We also saw each other at a networking event last night. He looked lovely, and it was funny because the usher took me in to be seated and the only seat left was next to H.
He told me about how it's hard to get motivated with work. He didn't seem completely happy in himself, but I asked how he was and he didn't say anything apart from about his work. I asked how his holiday was and he said it was just short and nothing special. I didn't ask anything else.
We talked quite a bit about family and friends, and football (of course). I didn't DB him at all. I asked why he didn't contact me over the past few weeks and said that I'd needed him. I said that it was nice to see him and that he could take me for lunch on Friday if he wanted to. He gave me a long hug when we said goodbye and we stood in the station for a while holding hands and looking at each other. I told him not to forget about me, and he said he never forgets about me. There were a few times when I thought he might say something to me, but he didn't. Then I kissed him on the cheek and went home.
Anyway, that's about it really. It was nice to see H. I really needed a hug and he gives good ones.
Wow Lisa. Well done. I have stopped DBing too pretty much, although I think reading what you put, I should have been even braver. Thats interesting timing, I hope you get to see him on Friday afterall.
So you asked him for this help and he respinded and said three times that he had been thinking about you? Was this on email? Thats interesting isnt it, you woildmt have known that ! he had gone really dark on you. Whats wrong with people??? It frustrates me so much that people are afraid to just be honest, open, say whats in their heart, they run around all fearful and closed off. I'm sick of it, life is too short!
Amazing after everything that you stood holding hands. He really doesnt know what he has done or why or what he is doing, does he. THats what strikes me. THeres no clarity in him, hes a lost boy.
Well done for not dbing again, seriously. You saying "not to forget about me" is a goodbye is it? As in, yuo were telling him you accept he's with her? Interesting that he said he never forgets about you.
As for lunch.. was that his idea? It IS a big week you know, everything is coming to a head.
I can hear in your tone that you are a bit down. Do you think he is 'gone' or was it inconclusive?
Glad you posted at last, we were all a little worried about you, Al xxx
I need to catch up on your thread. Yes, he said he'd been thinking about me 3 times in his e-mail. I suppose there was no proof when we weren't in contact, but I'd have been surprised if he hadn't been thinking about me- he knew I needed him, and it's not as though we ever had a bad relationship or that I caused issues. It would have been good if I could have left him for longer really.
'Don't forget about me' is a thing we used to say to each other when we were going to be apart for a little while. It wasn't a goodbye, more an 'if you're away don't forget about how great I am' thing. And yes, he did say he never forgets about me. I should hope not too.
Lunch was my idea- he was telling me he had nothing on at work on Friday so I jokingly said he could take me out for lunch as he owes me. He then brought it up at the end of the evening and offered, although I might have guilted him into it with telling him I needed him.
I guess in answer to the question of whether he's gone, I'd say that based on the facts, yes, he's gone, and he will be until he decides to try again (if he does). I'm not pinning my hopes on it- so much time has passed that I can't imagine him changing his mind now.
Busy at work again today and MLC man (who's my line manager) has just asked me what work he can do for me. So annoying- he should be helping me do my work and not lazing about at home asking for odd jobs. At least he's not in the office or I'd have given him a piece of my mind!
