I am glad to hear that you have had some baby steps and they certainly seem positive to me.
That was the same way that my H would start popping back around after he had left me and was ?ing his actions. Then out of the blue he wanted to give it another try. This happened three times with several months in between each try before he now came back again this time for the longest duration yet. Hang in there. I have faith.
Well, I wanted to give ya an update.
Last friday night, my H text me around 6:30pm to see if I wanted to join him for some drinks in town. I said, I was tired and didnt think so, and that I would get back to him if I changed my mind to go out. He then said, No problem and that he was gonna go out for a bit and then come over.
So, Finally at 11:00 he showed up. I was a bit mad and let down that he again would rather spend his evening at the bar rather than with me. So when He got here, He walked in feeling really guilty even though I never said anything. He knew he was making a poor choice and he even said he was sorry. I said, I am not mad but I dont like it when he drinks and drives. He admitted he has a problem with that and sat down next to me to talk.
He said, He knows that he has been a fish lately and that He doesnt know why. He said he thinks it is becuase of all the changes he is adjusting to in his life. Then he said he knows he spends too much time at the bars and that he needs to try to stay away more. I said, I love you. He said He loves our relationship and that he feels really good about us and where we are.
A little bit later, he realized that I had cooked a really great dinner that he would have loved to have had with me while he was out drinking earlier. I ate it alone and had a lot of left overs. He was so jealous, And I said well I still have to eat even when I am alone. And we both got a good chuckel because he knew what he missed out on.
Anyways, we had a great weekend. And at one point on sat. night he even mentioned possibly moving back in with each other in a while when we can afford the money to buy my late grandmothers house from my parents and fix it up.
We were supposed to do this back in the spring of 2007 right before he left me the first time. Obviously it didnt work out then. I hope we can make it work out this time.
This is a baby step towards my goal of Moving back in with each other. This was a big sign to me that he is starting to think beyond himself. For a while he was looking into buying another bachelors pad. I am so glad to see that there is hope that he wont.
Well, Thanks again for the advice and for popping in. TIPPER
