Trixi aka "The Pitbull who can't let go"

[Trixi]

DOM!!!! *wildly waving back*

I often wonder how you are doing. But I won't ask. Unless you want to volunteer....

Yes, she is quite clear. I suppose I just don't want to burn any bridges between he and her. But, oh well. That and I feel like I am "bad" for wanting to be with my nuclear family AND my extended family..and I had hoped that it wouldn't turn into some big production. Which now it will be. Why can't I have it all?

A friend of mine thought it was sounded kinda nice that my H gets the joy of rediscovering me. To expand on what H said; for instance I am now drinking wine and really enjoying it and pairing it with different foods. This was something H's parents tried to force on me when I was thyroid impaired and I would pay DEARLY that evening or the next day. (Headache, feeling sick, etc.) Now I can have wine and not have to worry. So, H said that since we've been separated I have "changed A LOT, for instance- the wine thing" and he is really enjoying it.

AND, I see his point. My horizons have been expanding. New people in my life are encouraging me to try new things. And I actually have a similar concern. It WAS boring and I would try to come up with stuff for us to do and he would often not agree or agree but then not emotionally be there. And it DID feel boring. And it was exhausting for me to try to figure out a way to get him to engage. (I am specifically thinking of a trip we made to an island via seaplane where it wasn't nearly as fun as I think it could have been.)
Having said that, we had a great time in Costa Rica; of course, he was emotionally engaged so that helped a TON.

I would like to validate his concerns, but also offer up possible solutions. I don't know if he tells me his fears so that I can actually try to address them with him and find a solution OR if he is just trying to create a moving target so I never can "win".