The Bumpy Road to Recovery #2

[Jayce]

Hey, Cinco, idea: Wonder what would happen if we read the books to them. Maybe quietly at night before we fall asleep. I've thought about it several times. Or even when we're being couch potatoes (TV would be a problem, tho). I've always thought he'd just sit/lie there & tune me out. Also any vocal inflection while reading any particular section might sound to them ... judgmental? sarcastic? So I haven't tried it.

On Diane's thread I mentioned he'll get to ch 15 in 2010... but I did ask him about arousal, being horny, as opposed to desire. I read the explanation of the difference to him. He said he's never horny. Or aroused if we prefer that word. Doesn't think sexual thoughts during the day. Almost wish I hadn't asked.

I'm guessing you, like me, want your spouse to read the books so they'll at least think about their sexual feelings, get in touch with them sort of. Realize how we feel. Because they apparently don't want to deal with it on their own, let alone share with us.

I can imagine their dread at us asking, "What did you think about chapter 2" or "How did you feel about the part about telling your partner ........whatever." Like getting quizzed. Or 'grilled' as my bro in law calls it. Wouldn't it be cool if they read the book(s) and asked US those questions when they were done? Mmmmmmmmm maybe I'll fly that idea by my H & see how he takes it.
J