Can't I Take Away All This Pain

[Sugar and Spice]

GF and Karen you are both so right. I don't and won't feel guilty for saying no. At this point he is paying his "CS and Alimony" just like he would be if we were already D, and since we did the refi and rolled everything into that, the house payment and cell phone bill alone eat up every bit of that money. So all other expenses are covered by me. The utilities, phone, internet, child care, food and incidentals are all my responsibility, so I just really don't have the budget to loan him money. I had to put and extra $260.00 in the account this month because all of the extra we had accumulated in the past is now gone. The summer PG&E bills really put me over the top. So unfortunately for him, when it comes to choose between his gambling habit and my kids, there is no contest.

Its good for me because I no longer feed the problem and it then rests squarely on his shoulders...it remains his problem.

I predict he and the Troll are going to have problems anyway. They are both hopeless addicts and she is going to expect him to watch the baby while she goes and plays and he is going to expect her to do it so he can go play and or stay available for work so the expectation versus the reality will be an interesting dynamic.

GF I do actually think that no matter where the football tournament was being held, he would have gone, but its just sort of funny in a not so funny way that its in Vegas. I have no expectations, I know that he will be gambling and I already plan to do just what you suggested. I will plan and do stuff with my kids and if he would like to join us he is more than welcome to, but if he chooses not to, then that will be fine as well. This weekend is about DS getting to play football and us getting to spend some time together doing some fun stuff. DD hasn't been to Vegas since she was really little so its going to be fun to watch her see things she has never seen before.

I'm sure the Troll is NOT going to be pleased either that the 4 of us are going over together and that will not help their love fest either.