So, no contact from stbx for 12 days, then an email outlining his proposal for our financial agreement (d settlement) yesterday.
I've been doing really good with GAL and LRT. At least 50% of me believes my life is actually better w/out stbx and I'm having a great time. I know it shows to stbx, too. The most recent convos were good DB-wise:
-He thinks I'm on board with the D and we're 'friendly' w. each other.
-He can also tell how happy I am. He won't admit that he's jealous or drawn toward me at all (completely putting up a wall) He has shown some little signs of curiousity, though.
-He gets angry with me when I'm not easily reachable or don't respond to his messages right away. (Good or bad effect here?)
For those who haven't read my whole story, there is no proof of OW in my sitch- he claims he wants no one, thinks R's are not worth it or that he doesn't have time for one (career is most impt). He's shut down emotionally for the most part. In one convo a few weeks ago, he opened up some and admitted he never wanted to be hurt again and didn't think he could give me the R I deserved, he needs to work on his career too much- that's his 1st priority. Yes, this was HUGE that we had this talk. (Or that I mostly listened to his feelings).
I'm not sure if stbx's wall is too strong to come down.
I'm not sure if stbx will see the value of having an R again.
I'll wait until he calls again and then drop a tiny hint about new men friends teasing me (which is true! and it feels great for my PMA) And of course let him go within 10 min or less, b/c I gotta go!
Any advice for me?
DBer since 2003 D - 3/24/09 GAL and DBing for myself
