Is this worth saving, or am I only fooling myself?

[Trying2live]

The love busting thing is on the Surviving An Affair book so if you get it you 'll find it there.

As far as not know what to 180 on the SAA book may help. At the end of the book is a questionnaire. You will take this test at the end of the book as IF you are HER taking it. This will show you her emotional needs. Every human has a range of 10 emotional needs. The top 5 are the most important. By identifying your spouses top 5 you may be able to see where there may have been some gaps. Now I do not say that as if this is your fault. IT's not, they could have done things differently if they wanted to.

I really think this book may benefit you. Especially how your wife chases you down to talk to you. Really consider getting the book, you may be able to identify the 180's.

Do you know for sure that the affair is ongoing? Have you exposed the affair to bust up the fantasy world? A lot of this is explained in SAA.

Hey you should totally go take the music lessons. Gym stuff is to keep you healthy and strong but the music thing will bring you some joy, i say go for it!

I understand how you feel about her meeting him. Mine had EA/PA and then moved in and lives with her but yet i still am fighting. Each of us know how much we can stand and if you can't that's not a big deal. The fact you offered reconciling is great.
I really think you can benefit from the book. could this OM have been meeting her emotional needs? I'd rather you do that and with precision since you've identified them.