WDID: The "I love you"s your W throws out.......not sure what's going on there.......Kinda like "I love you" as my kids' father kind of love you? Or what? Strange. Wonder how her other life is going right now.
I know its strange, like I said I'm not dwelling on it, I know she was tired and it just slipped out, anyway actions speak louder than words, I don't know how her and OM are doing.
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WDID: Anyway, enjoy your time to yourself. We all need that sometimes. Make sure to give yourself some relaxing time. I know you do a lot of work around the house. This is your chance for some quiet...maybe pick up a magazine or take a nap.....what a concept, huh?
what a crazy concept nap !!! I built a entertainment center today and going to scrub the kitchen floor before I settle down for the evening. Too much work to be done but I will take it easy tonight maybe work on a picture CD or work on a cookbook I'm getting together for christmas - something fun - early to bed maybe.
W has the kids they had to stop by and pick up S5 soccer uniform, looked like they were already getting on her nerves. W is going to drop the kids off early tomorrow morning, 9:00am which will allow me to take them to church with me.
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.25
I'm thinking the ILY's are maybe a habit? H and I both used to call each other honey and kept doing that occasionally even after H had moved out for quite a while. I don't think in our case it meant much, esp. in H's case. But everyone's different, so who knows??? Karen
D9 found out where W was at when she left for a week, she flew to Florida, I'm assuming with OM. She bought OM's plane ticket online last year to Florida (When I was snooping) I guess this year he took W with him.
Kids are back running through the house having fun, music to my ears. When W dropped the kids off at 9:00am, I asked her if she would be going to D7&D7 or D9 soccer games today, she said since she spent so much time with the kids she didn't have time to clean and do her laundry, so that is what she is going to do today. Now if you believe that, I'll tell you another story.
When she dropped off the kids, the first thing they said was whats for breakfeast, what the heck, 9:00am and the kids haven't had anything to eat.
Prayed for everyone in church today, hope you all are doing fine, Thanks for checking in on me and Karen, yes I believe the ILY is just being said out of habit.
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.25
she said since she spent so much time with the kids she didn't have time to clean and do her laundry, so that is what she is going to do today. Now if you believe that, I'll tell you another story.
Most of us adults have the ability to clean AND care for the kids. Or to put aside cleaning to watch a soccer game or two.
hey trooper, how said she doesn't spend enough time with the kids, she is so going to regret this later, when they are teenagers and barely give her the time of day. I loved Joel Osteen's last sermon on Sunday: "your payday is coming, you live in a controlled environment, God doesn't let anything happen that isn't for your benefit"
Hang in there bud.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
W told D9 that she couldn't come to her game because she was to tired and went to bed early, she may have been, being with the kids all day Saturday may have tired her out.
W came over this morning to pick the kids up for school, tells me her doctor advised her she has high blood preasure, I didn't say much (kids were there), but called her later in the morning and asked if her doctor was giving her anything to take for the high blood preasure, she said no that 2 doctors have comfirmed that she in fact does have high blood preasure. She went into a long story (remember she is a talker) about how she is in the best shapre she has ever been in, that she eats right, etc. then she says she believes its mental stress she is under, I said if there was anything she needed me to do just let me know
Wow high blood preasure because your mentally stressed, what the trip to Florida with boyfried wasn't relaxing enough, not having to deal with screaming kids all the time, house work every day, etc. I wonder what is stressing her out. Cannot be me or the kids. I know she is doing a lot of work clearing out her moms stuff and helping her dad, but I also know she has a lot of free time to herself.
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.25
What's so sad is she truly believes all she is saying. I wish she would see someone. My one friend that reminds me so much of her (divorced twice, likes having the kids part time, etc.) went for testing and has found she is manic. Possible bipolar, etc. Your wife has some signs of major mental illness. It worries me for her and your kids as well.
WIERD DAY W called me today at work, wanted to tell me that when she had the kids Saturday they went to Taco Bell and the kids liked the cheese rollup, told me they are only 75 cents and its a quick meal they will eat. Told W that we never eat fast food, but I will keep this in mind if I'm pressed for time, told her thank you and we said good bye. - WIERD
Then in the after noon I received this email from W, it was sent to a group - usually when she is going through her email I get several "group mailings" I only received this one and its been almost a month since she sent me any e-mail
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God has seen you struggling, God says it's over. A blessing is coming your way. If you believe in God , please send to ten people (including me) please don't ignore this. You are being tested.
YOU HAVE 20 MINUTES TO TELL 10 FRIENDS THAT YOU LOVE THEM (INCLUDING ME) SO I LOVE YOU! GO!
Hey WDID, yes W was diagnosed as possibly being bipolar (very mild case or hypomania) A hypomania episode is not severe enough to cause marked impairment in social or occupational functioning, or to necessitate hospitalization, and there are no psychotic features.
I did some major reading on this, but W refused to follow through with doctors, would not listen to me, or anyone. 1 inflated self-esteem or grandiosity 2. decreased need for sleep (e.g., feels rested after only 3 hours of sleep) 3. more talkative than usual or pressure to keep talking 4. flight of ideas, or subjective experience that thoughts are racing 5. distractibility (i.e., attention too easily drawn to unimportant or irrelevant external stimuli) 6. excessive involvement in pleasurable activities that have a high potential for painful consequences (e.g., engaging in unrestrained buying sprees, sexual indiscretions, or foolish business investments)
This is my W - This is what I lived with
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.25
