TxMom- help I'm still hopeful -#2 post

[Little Engine]

TxMom--I feel for you friend, you are in a real tough spot today and you are feeling just awful I'm sure. I sense your pain as I read here how broken and busted H has made you today. I don't know him, but that he is acting like this, he is not your H! Would your H do this to you and your girls? Don't worry about the backsliding, you are frustrated, it is hard to keep PMA when the world you've known is crumbling around you. I'm sure finding out that his co-workers know about what is going on made it feel like he is another two steps out the door. You need to work on detaching and GAL. You are doing great overall, but you have to sort of prepare yourself for H's drama and the bad days. Detaching will keep you from getting sucked into this. I'm praying for you. Just as you are having this bad day, there are better ones ahead and probably some that are worse. It is all part of the roller coaster H has you riding. I can't think that H feels good about any of this that he is doing. He is just caught in the middle. He has to tell you all sorts of mean hateful stuff to justify his feelings? I go back to what you said about your MIL and how she sort of shoves emotions into the back of the bottom drawer. That seems like how H is handling this. He doesn't know any better because that is how he was raised. Tough to know what is really going on in any WAS's mind.