Hi Garius - From my experience, whenever you bring another person into your relationship, whether it is out in the open (as is your case) or it is done in secret (as I have done in the past), no matter how hard you try it is very difficult to separate a purely sexual relationship from a relationship with connection. The two affairs that I had *started* as a purely sexual thing. As time would go on though I would find myself emotionally involved in the affairs as well. It's like playing with fire. Eventually you fall for that other person and then you are torn in two and it's not a good feeling either.
If you both go outside of your marriage to try to satisfy your needs, eventually one or both of you will find attachment outside as well. At least you are counseling and maybe there you two may be able to work things out.
