(((((Treese))))) I'm glad I waited to post.... I don't think I could have said it any better than naej!
Anything we assume about how he feels or doesn't feel is just a guess. The only thing that matters right now are his actions. And his actions say that he hasn't respected you as a person, let alone a wife for at least a decade.
It's time for you to respect yourself. You are a good person. A good mother. A good wife. You did do your best, you always did what you thought was right. Be proud of what you've done, and of the kids you've raised. And make sure that you give yourself the respect that you deserve!
Unfortunately, I also I agree with naej that you need to protect yourself legally. Talk to a lawyer. There may be things that you can do to protect yourself and the kids by getting their "first". I have no idea, but it can't hurt to find out. AS naej said, you H will be looking out for himself, and his lawyer will be looking out for your H. That doesn't leave anyone looking out for you, and your kids. It's up to you now, to make sure that doesn't happen. We'll all be here for you. You are not alone!
