Checking in on you Tomato!!!! Hope you are doing well.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Tomato, I have no great words of advice. I just feel for you right now. I will say a prayer for your continued strength. It would seem that your darling did not want to talk to you until she needed something from you....that stinks.
Just backtracking a bit to get caught up. Your stopping in for a "visit" was plenty of "boost" for me, you fellow stander ..you. I know you feel for me, cuz you can relate in a number of ways. ANd the selfishness angle of W's is something I am quite used to. It is pretty well embedded in her family lineage. W is fairly self-aware (though not to the extent that people have given me credit for) and has despised this trait of her mom's while all the while trying to duck and dive the inevitable pass-down of it to her. It is the work of the devil, one of the things he can ensnare people with.
Checking in on you Tomato!!!! Hope you are doing well.
I am just trying to pick and choose the paths that will please my Lord. I am never with out Him and in that regard, I am as incredibly well as I can be for a man with a heart which feels a though it has been put through a cheese grater.
Thanks so much for taking the time to see how I am SO2. We have been through a lot of test. Let's just keep getting stronger. I will continue to keep watch out for you and pray for you and your's. Be well and know that the Lord has the most wonderful plan for you to follow. Follow Him.
Hey T - I too have received the "do not call me" "do not text me" request from my H. So, I sit on my hands and do as he asks. When he does call me, I act happy. Not happy because he called... happy because I am happy. You did the right thing. Why should you go out of your way, just to be slapped down. My only suggestion might be to try not to be cold. Because then she knows you're using emotion and knows she got to you. If she asks you why you don't call... tell her "you asked me not to".
I'm thinking of you even though I don't post too often. Praying for you.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
thanks a bunch Blindy (I have morphed your name for brevity)
Thanks for the advice. It is good to have the coldness and bluntness, that I emanate often, reflected back at me. I could have guessed at that. Thanks for confirming it.
T.... as you know, the "no texting/calling" thing is her way to distance herself from you. Remember, it's a dance...one day they dance closer, next day they pull away......
it's their rollercoaster, not our. But you know that.
Strength and Honor my friend.....
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
T.... as you know, the "no texting/calling" thing is her way to distance herself from you. Remember, it's a dance...one day they dance closer, next day they pull away......
it's their rollercoaster, not our. But you know that.
Strength and Honor my friend.....
Sometimes I don't know what I know. It is a vicious cyclone and sometimes you get sucked in.
I would like to think she is doing some kind of work on herself. Strengthening her good characteristics and thereby diminishing the somewhat grotesque stuff, relatively speaking.
It is a hope. Prayer is needed through it all. That is for sure. Lest I be fully and completely sucked in to the nightmare.
