I know I'm being more 'in grace', but I have trouble reading her behaviors. She still carries on with OM, with the encouragement of her friend she's living with.
You are doing a good job showing grace to your wife, Frank and I know it makes you feel good. I wanted you to do that - feel that - but there's a greater Grace I hope you'll come to know one day, too.
See, Frank, the grace you are exhibiting is the best you can muster up as a human being. It's fallible. Some do it better than others but none of us do it perfectly. That's the problem. It's an effort. We make the DECISION to "show grace". It is a good thing - choosing that high road - and it does lead to the Spirit being able to work in us but...
We can become prideful if we're not careful...
"Look how - good/strong/forgiving/insert your own term here - I am!"
We can't really show grace by it's true definition unless we ourselves are in the fullness of God's grace because it is THEN that HIS GRACE would flow through us and touch other lives.
Being in the fullness of God's grace would leave you RIGHT where you need to be as far as your wife goes.
Able to love unconditionally, Frank.
Without expectation.
You can't do that for another person until you accept it for yourself and then still...the very best you can do is be a vessel and allow Him work through you.
