Can't I Take Away All This Pain

[GoingForward]

I told him that I loaned him money because I thought he needed money to "live" on and that since he lied to me and was rude and callous about my feelings that I would not put myself in that position again. I feel like he did it just to be mean and I'm not going to do it again and I asked him not to put me in the position to have to say no.

Good for you.

Don't let him guilt you into loaning him money and don't feel guilty for having to tell him no. He's a grown man, right? Let him deal with it.

I see two positives here by telling him no - 1) he will have to face what he's doing to himself (the consequences of uncontrollable gambling), and 2) if he's strapped for cash, it's going to put a LOT more strain on the R with Troll. JMO.

Also JMO, but I wonder if he would've been so eager to join you and DS for the football tournament had it been located anywhere other than Vegas. It's like the ultimate dose of crack for these addicts!

Ah well. I hope for your son's sake that your H can exhibit some self-control and actually be around while you guys are there and not live in the casinos all night and day. Remember though, no expectations. Share the costs, but plan everything out as if it's just going to be you and DS (DD, too, if she's gonna be there). Don't count on H to make it to dinner or to the game on time, kwim? Just saying this because it's obvious he hasn't worked through his issues.

Congrats to your DS!!!

(((((Corey)))))