Treese, I really am so sorry, but you have to let this man go. You will/may never know whether he regrets or thinks of you etc. People can tell you he does, is not happy etc, quote some person they know who said this or that BUT it is only him that can tell you. Only him that can choose to work on your marriage whatever you do or say is not going to make any difference. I so know the pain you are feeling with the exception of a love child my x left after 40 years together, no contact. This year he contacted his d for the first time in 8 years, he told her he is happy. Asked after me? why after all these years. I don't know if you are luckier than me still seeing him or not. I know that unless you truly let go in your heart and mind you will be trapped in this viscious circle. I have no idea what the answer is but I do know how your heart aches. We survive, we have to. Please take care of you and look after yourself financially as best you can. Your h will not have your best interest at heart so you must protect and care for your family as best you can. Your life has and will change even more before this is finished so I would suggest you get legal advice ASAP, it does not have to be the start of a D but it will give you information and the best way to protect yourself. Breathe deeply, what is done is done no amount of tears can undo it, you can limit the damage. Take care I am thinking of you.
