She needs you to change. She definitly still wants to be with you.
I would be very clear with her and tell her that you love her that you want to work things out that you want to change. You don't know what changes she needs or how to make them, but maybe she can help you make a list or something? She needs you to be PROACTIVE.
I only read this one post, I don't have nay of your back history, so sorry if my advice seems lame.
