Yeah well everyone has to remember too my head went crazy just like everyone else's of the thoughts of them dining and doing things together, still do struggle, but I grab my mind and flip it to something else because the longer i think the worse I feel. And also remember that i had almost 80% no contact with H for the 1st 5 months which I feel helped reduced stuff though he was nuts and lashed out at me and said horrible things to me. I think If I didn't have the no contact who knows if the progress would be made so far.
I have to remind myself who cares what fog date they are on LOL! Maybe they went to a movie to see "Fog on the foggy river" or maybe they had a bite to eat at "Foggy's" where they sipped fogachinos...LOL ok it made me laugh.
They are both living in lala land and its not going to work. The statistic show this. Yes some go to affairages but most of those end up in divorce. They are suffering although they try to act like they are not and all the while we are concentrating on ourselves getting stronger GAL'ing and 180'ing. Someone is going to get the new and improved us and hopefully that will be them. SAA says most affairs die a natural death, what really matters is how long we can do it.
Everyone must protect their own love bank's too or we wont make it and it won't matter it they do come back because our love bank will be so depleted that we wont want them back, that's why pulling back and detaching is to protect you as well.
Wish ya'll could come here for New years eve...oh what fun that would be!!!!
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
