Faith - I agree that a line has been crossed - and I think my W knows that as well. But getting an attorney involved will do nothing... I have learned that having an affair changes nothing legally in NY - (unless they are promiscuous in front of her).
It would just provoke the devil in her anyway. I'm sitting back and taking it as calmly as I can.
I will try to show that the BF is not a shock to me... I was even on the thought of trying to date again. I am sad and lonely just living alone...thinking about how selfish her actions are.
I read Scotman's thread and it seems we are in similar situations... somehow he has been able to build a communicative relationship with his W which includes "family time" (despite a BF). That is something I was longing to get toward - and really the only way for there to be hope.
Me:40 / W:33 / D:3 T:7.5/M:4 D Day: 1/24/08 Legal Separated: 6/12/08 BF who sleeps over: confirmed 11/10/08 Suspect BF pre-dates D Day
