I too need to get back to work but reading through your post there is allot of the same things I am going through. I will try to come back later.. BUT one thing I say something about is the "bed".
WOW... I had a hard time dealing with the thought that my W (I think) picked up her OM at the airport and give him a "ride" pun intended.. To the motel. Thinking of him in OUR van was hard for me. BUT OUR BED!!!!!!!!!! I would have wanted a new bed anyway...
I saw this "Cops" show that they had a report of this guy burning a mattress in the street. When they got there they talked to the guy and he told them he found his wife in bed with OM in that bed so he was burning it.
The cops let him go because there was no law against burning your own stuff...
Later Doc
Yes Doc, kind of tough to take, but I can't NOT sleep in the bed now that we've seemingly figured it out because then W would get suspicious and I don't want to go there until she's ready to talk about it.
But I do think I'll ask my brother to bring his truck over and we can take the old bed to his house (lots of land) and take it out and shoot some holes in it. That would get out some of my frustration....
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.