And the fun begins....

[Livin4ME]

Thanks guys. I'm gonna give you a little secret! Shhh! It actually helps ME when I'm able to help others. Does that make sense?! I know it may sound selfish too. I read other sitch's and I'm able to get other's perspectives. It's hard to describe. It gets my mind off my own sitch. And I feel that if I'm able to make one person smile or have them take a deep breath and calm down or something like that, I feel like I've accomplished something.
I've been talking to a friend on mine alot lately. We've actually been getting closer because of her sitch. (she was having an affair with her H's best friend who are both very good friends with my STBX. Yeah, who'd a thought, I'd be the person she comes to about this!) But we're able to talk about our sitch's and it's quite helpful for me. I don't know why. It just is. And I'm not even giving her advice, I don't have any to give her! I've just been very open and honest with her about the what if's. Would she feel the same if her H treated her like her OM? What happens if it doesn't work out between her and OM? What about her D? What about the families?
My STBX's high school sweet heart did the same thing. Came knocking on my door out of the blue! Hadn't talked to her in about a year. She was having an affair with a married man. She's also married. (again, why in the world did she come to me!!!) I listened to her. Was very blunt and honest with her. And after a while, she came back telling me OM had dumped her to go back to his W. And she had realized her H was doing the exact thing she WANTED him to do. He was being there for her. She realized she did still love him and wanted to be with him. She is now PG with their 3rd child!
Again, I know this probably sounds very selfish of me. But you guys are actually helping me by reading my posts. So thank you!!!