Marriage with WAW ended, but...

[HOPEFULinCALI]

HiC,
any news on your sitch? I sure hope there have been some improvements. You've helped a lot of folks on this board and deserve the best!

H left on Saturday for the CHP academy and I haven't heard from him since. He is now fully involved in an affair with a girl from Mexico. Although I still pray for my marriage and work hard to maintain a friendship I am also making peace with the fact that it just might not happen. Although I love my husband he is still the kid I married and has a lot of growing up to do. In our case love just may not be enough. He also doesn't share the love of Christ that I do which is a non-negotiable.

As far as the D; at the end of January it will have been six months however, being the kid that he is he doesn't realize that it actually takes work to make it happen. He refuses to go to court, see my lawyer, get his own lawyer, see a mediator, read any paperwork, sign any paperwork, talk about reaching a settlement etc. He has completely stonewalled me. I can tell you knowing him that he thinks that the D is magically granted after six months with no work at all. You just file papers and poof!

At this point I'm just going to continue to make sure that any interactions we have are "safe" and comfortable to her and continue to be a friend. As much as I get tempted to engage in the R talk, I've been really good about keeping that off limits. As long as OM is in the picture I don't see things progressing too much. She's dropped enough hints to date to make me realize that the OM is not the person she wants to settle down with, so will just continue to be patient.

That is all you can do. It sounds as if she is realizing that OM is not the knight in shining armor she imagined he would be. I think that you may want to nudge her into the romantic stage when the time is right and insist that the affair end without pressuring her. I am pleased to hear that things are looking up. Hang in there.

Thanks for your support too!