thanks goldey. I was ready for anything, had he had a spine and told me a simple "I'm dating" it would've taken me a back a bit (he said a while ago that he had to learn to live on his own and to not depend on someone to be happy) but I would've taken it fine, I was ready to let go more and even decided to not invite him to outing with kids anymore since I was the only one suggesting things and he barely talked when we did go out.
As far as legally, the part about overnight visitors should've been there, but mediator didnt' put it on the final draft and I just wanted it over with and signed. I dont' think much would come up even if it were there, the year of separation to file for divorce is almost up, the date on the paperwork was Jan. 19, so I'm sure he'll file on the do, so then the overnight clause would mean jack. He told his mom she wouldnt' be staying over, but I am bracing myself for anything and to make sure I can talk to my kids in a constructive way when they have questions. He can marry,date, I dont' care, I just wish he'd see how his behavior could affect kids.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
