I am,sh is talking a lot better now but not saying she wants back or wants out,staying in the middle its really confuing me,its a big change from back then but still I dont understand its like I am the one that did all this
Did not have good day today for some reason my whole marriage flashed in front of me and I just couldnt control myself and cried for hours. even though it seems my W is coming around maybe realizing what she is doing it still hurts that she is not coming home. I guess I am afraid she is just telling me she is not talking to other women but in fact might still be,just to kep me around. I do not want to be the option I want to be the priority. I am beginning to reralize that my life has to move with or without her,its just so hard and every time I see her I melt. Lately she looks me in the eyes alot and I see that she still loves me. I asked her not to do that since she knows what it does to me. Now it seems she does it on purpose. I dont understand why. Could she have a change of heart and wants to come home but is afraid to admit she did wrong. I am sooo confused,need help
I need Advice!!! Here is an update on my situation. My Wifes Mother called me and told me to sit down and said here it is.(Now wife hasnt talked to mother aout us at all) She told me that my wife wanted to come home but is afraid that it will be like i bring it back every so often and she cant live like that. that she was ready to come home the other day but when I told her its tme to come home she felt pressured and backed out. That she is not talking to the women no more but she is trying to talk to her but she is trying everything to avoid her. Her mother told me she said she just needs time and to put the divorce on hold but she is not telling me she is coming home,just to give her time. I asked my wife is she thinking about coming home and just need more time,she said no she is not telling me but she do need time she has to come home when she is ready or it will not work.to give her time. So I asked you thinking about coming home and she said no again. she asked me to put the divorce on old and take the time to find myself please not someone else. I dont know what to do,I am confused,should I trust her,what is going on here,is she sincere it seems since she told her mom everything and my wife in 15 yrs has never told her mom anything about our marriage. I am just afraid if I wait she is still playing games. Why she not telling me she thinking about coming home,she told her mom that why not to me,I hope someone can help me out there to think more clearly before I go through with the divorce and she was sincere. I appreciate any advice
So what am I suppose to do,there are small signs she coming around but only after she realized she might be loosing me she still is very firm on that she is not coming home and is done with the other woman and needs time. This must be one of the hardest decissions I have to make in life.I dont want to be the option I want to be the priority!!!
Give her the time she wants. If she is truly done with the OW; she'll need time to get over the R. She also may need time to be sure that she can trust coming home.
My W has said during a previous separation that she was scared that if we tried to reconcile that things would go back to the way that they were. This may be your W's fear right now and it's a valid concern.
That is what she is telling me.I just so confused if its the truth.If I ask her you thinking about coming home but need time she says no I am no. Then tells me I just need time I am not leading you on. Its like she wants me to wait around so she can make up her mind on what to do. I do understand what you saying though,why cant she just tell me that I am so torn by this that i make a mistake n push the divorce on her and she was honest
What's your hurry in trying to push the D? If you're DB'ing in the hopes of saving your M; you've got nothing but time, especially if she isn't pushing for D.
Patience....patience...patience...
This takes time.
She probably can't tell you because she probably doesn't know for sure how she wants to proceed.
Wife and I came to an agreement on the divorce with joint custody,joint residential rights aso. I am afraid she is not liking that no more and dont want the agreement lie that no more.Just buying time so later she can file for divorce and get full custody. Right now she only agreed because her lawyer told her she might loose her daughter with all that happened so she agreed to this. I am just making sure this is genine,and definetly afraid she is playing with my mind,since she knows how i feel about her but not telling me anything. What you think?
