WAW has been home for 19 weeks now

[GH31]

Hi guys - thanks for following this depraved situation,

I met my W after work and came home with her. She wanted to listen to her iPod but I engaged her in conversation instead. Just idle chatting. As I saw her get her iPod out I noticed that the time was set to UK time. I remember her remarking months ago that I had changed the time on our own laptop which had thus changed the time on her iPod to Sydney time.

So the only way that the time could have changed is if she had plugged it into a laptop set to UK time. OM lives in England so this is another massive red flag. The signs are there - all I need is conclusive proof. I am so angry and disgusted with her today.

I asked her why the laptop had changed to UK time and she said she had "no idea". I said I didn't believe her and suggested that she plugged the iPod into our laptop to see if the time changed and she said "then it would mess up my files" - meaning the pictures of OM which I scrubbed of the laptop would no longer be in her iPod.

I asked her why she lied to me about seeing her Mum and she said "to avoid a conflict". What the fcuk? She goes on about me hounding her so I asked her "what do you mean by houding? Tell me specifically what to avoid." so I made a list (talking about her time in England and us separating in the future) and agreed never to do it again. I then asked her to agree never to be dishonest with me again which she did - though I know her words are just words because she is wayward and adulterous. I know she is lying to me.

Her sister to whom she is close disapproves mightily of her actions knows all about her lying and her selfish behaviour.

I will snoop on her iPod and into her emails at the first opportunity and verify all of this independently. Then I will expose to her family and go dark, explaining my reasons for doing so. They all think she is a disgrace and have commended me on fighting for our marriage.

I am reasonably convinced that she doesn't want to lose me and our connection/conversations - I am doubtful about being married to her although I realise that letting go would be heartbreaking for both of us.

I will get to the bottom of this. I know confronting her isn't exactly DBing but hard consequences seem to be the only thing she responds to.