No Sara, I am not surprised. I didn't think that she would do this but now that I have discovered it - surprise wasn't on the list of emotions I felt.

I don't see any way that this marriage can survive unless my wife is completely broken by the consequences of her decisions, and whilst I am very sad I am not sure whether I want it to.

Me: 46
W: 46
T: 23
M: 20
DS12
DD11
DS5

W left: 01/28/08
Discovered OM: 02/26/08
W back for 9 days: 04/08
W returned 05/21/08
EA/PA - 01/08-07/09
W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)