Your CW working with Asperger's and HFA patients? Wow, it is a small world. My S7 has AS, and W has decided he inherited it from me. Never mind that I've already had myself screened by specialists in UNC's TEEACH research program -- and was cleared. But, no, my arrogant STBXW, an RN and a lay-expert on AS/HFA, still thinks they, the professionals, are wrong and she knows more than they do. Yeaaah, riiiight.
Yo NoCode...
Like our fallen brother Chazz, , my CW works with autistic kids too.
She in fact has a S:12 with aspergers. Largely "typically" functioning, however, has real challenges with transitioning amongst other things. Which kinda comes to mind on Karen's comment about letting her little one know about the D.
My CW's son, when he is not coping well, perseverates on the D. It keeps coming up again and again. D is a tough thing for any kid but kids with ASD have unique challenges with it as I have observed anyway.
On the thing about your W blaming your gene pool for your son's ASD, it is my experience that the blame game is a frequent fallback position in many D's... your son's ASD may just happen to be a convenient thing to point at by you W. Sad, but usually true.
I have seen the same blame cycle used with other behavioural challenges. Heck.... I was blamed for my son's exema! I half way expeced my X to blame me for 9/11. Anyway... doesnt sound like I am saying anything you dont conclude already. Just bothers me to see it happen.
ASD has enough challenges of its own... does not need to be used as a throwing brick in a D war.
Me too. All the proceeds I get from the sale of the house will go to settle outstanding debts. There won't be anything left over -- thanks to W's rare genius in negotiating the price with prospective buyers. After that (and paying a tithe to church and charities) I'll be flat broke. And Christmas is looking rather tight, especially after we pay for whatever damages that S7 caused in the school gym last week.
But the good news is that I will have knocked out a lot of debt that had been mounting since the move-out, and I won't have nearly as many monthly expenses to deal with.
Originally Posted By: lwb
We can do this. And we will do this, putting them first. Because I am sure, like me, those babies are your world.
Hmm, nocode. I don't know if we can associate any longer. After seeing your obvious disobedience on another post. I don't like being 'hooked in' with such a rebel. I'll be re-thinking our relationship.
I was FRAMED, I tell ya'! I didn't do it, nobody saw me do it...
I listened to a sermon by Andy Stanley today. In general it was about wisdom; in specific it was about asking ourselves about the wisdom of a proposed action. Even more specifically he asked us, when we are failing to heed wisdom, which of three chairs (positions) we are sitting in -- (1) Naivete, (2) Foolishness or (3) Mockery.
Naturally it gets you to thinking about the mistakes you have made in your life .. and to wince at your approach in facing the decisions that turned out to be bad mistakes. And being an LBS, these questions really had me wondering. I think I can say that I was utterly naive -- I most surely did indeed sit in that "chair", ... with maybe half of a butt-cheek touching on the fool's seat.
As for my W, well, I hate to say it, but she is not unlike the description by Solomon of the dog who goes back to eat his own vomit. She has willingly decided to play the fool for "love". And because, like nearly all adulterous WAS, she gets very nasty and disdainful when anyone tries to tell her the folly she has fallen into, we can see that she is also sitting in chair #3, representing mockery and condemnation of wisdom.
And of those three, the mocker is the one who you cannot possibly reason with. The best you can do is leave them to their fate.
Which reminds me of what I said to my friends after I had signed the legal docs selling my house -- I realized I was inadvertently and reluctantly "giving my W enough rope to hang herself with".
Yes. And so very true that you can't reason with them. Wow.
About paying off your debt. Its GREAT you will have more breathing room every month, with those bills knocked out. That is fabulous!! Hey, at least we can still afford those paper bags we are stuck in, huh?
I noticed this evening I missed an email from W this afternoon. It's got me perturbed.
Quote:
Do you think we can agree to meet by the car the next time I bring the boys to church. That way they can hug you out of the way of the crowds.
Thank you.
Offended, my first thought is what a frakking b*$&#! Now she doesn't want her or our children to be seen with me? Why? Because we might be seen as a family? Is she afraid this will get back to her "friends"? (One of her former co-workers attends the same church.)
I've thought about telling her that God can see her and what she's doing no matter where she goes.
But I think I'll just tell her to "deal with it!"
Am I over-reacting?
Lwb, I now envy the cordial, child-focused peace you've achieved with your ex.
hmmm, I don't see it that way, it could actually be open to many interpretations.
As for the chairs, my stbx is hogging the "foolishness" chair, never solved his issues with me, now with ow, now he's bringing the whole enchilada nicely disguised as a new R with gf#2 Although the mockery one also fits him, you can reason with him, it's either "his life" or "that's your opinion"...
You'd think they'd learn...
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
NoC, I was reading your other posts and read that your son takes Ritalin, does he have ADHD? I know quite a bit because stbx has it and while we were together I read up on it a lot and learned quite a bit and apparently diet can make a huge difference, and also the right kind of Omega3.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
, my CW works with autistic kids too.