In case there are others who might want to weigh in with their thoughts on my most recent exchange w/ my darling, which went down the tubes and has resulted in the non-contact thing presently ...here it is again:
She had told me two phone calls ago (and two tuesdays ago) that she did not want me to call her anymore that she was "not interested in hearing from me anymore". Then this past Sunday I get a call from her queerying whether I was around and trying to get me to play delivery guy of an eliptical glider that she bought years ago and used for maybe 1 week. I have it in a pile of stuff on the stoop outside my front door. She initially called seeking my opinion on if I thought it still worked given that it was sitting outside for a while.
Given how confused she has me by her calling me in the first place after banishing me. I was very short with her and just said that I did not know what it;s condition was but I presumed that it would work fine. Then I said that it was there for her to pick up if she wanted it. She did not like that very much and said "what? ..and put it in my car..that's is impossible" I just said whatever you have to do it is here for you. I have a truck which I guess she just figured automatically that I would load it onto and bring it to her. So after I indirectly shot her down on being the delivery boy. I then hurriedly ended the cal by saying "I fail to understand why you even called me because you had informed me you did not want to hear from me anymore, right" then I think i said "since you do not want to hear from me I don't have anything more to say..gotta go..bye" and she said bye and that was the last contact with my darling.
Although I have reverted from time to time to referring to her as my darling W on here. In the earthly and legal (paperwork) sense she ceased to be my leagal W on 6/26/08. Her D was finalized on that date. I do not recognize it because there is no truth to it in the eyes of the Lord. Thus it is not in my signature line.
Tomato, I have no great words of advice. I just feel for you right now. I will say a prayer for your continued strength. It would seem that your darling did not want to talk to you until she needed something from you....that stinks.
It stinks to be mired down in a "stare down" who will blink first or in this case who will contact the other first. All I know is I was given the instruction from her lips not to call her anymore. And I responded by saying I would not and that I would honor her wishes. Ball is in her proverbial court on this one.
Gotta continue my visit with the folks at the ole folks oasis here in PA Dutch land.
hey tomato. I still stand by what I said before your thread locked, and please pass me that margarita, H squirming to leave, I so need it. you stood by her wishes, you did good, she cant punish you for doing what SHE wanted!
thanks for the new thread. and for checking on me.
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
and please pass me that margarita, H squirming to leave, I so need it.
Hey ..no stealing BobbiJo's margarita ...to the first respondent goes the spoils, you lush you. Besides it is sooo not a need. Now Jesus our Lord ..there is a need. In spite what all of us may think (and as you know all certainly includes me), alcohol is not an endorsed part of DB'ing LOL.
Originally Posted By: BG
thanks for the new thread. and for checking on me.
Just excercising what the Lord wishes of me. He says your worth it.
Love your new thread title. How are mom and dad doing in the new homestead?
Thank you for checking on me throughout the weekend. D17 and I are reaching an accord. As for H, he has been mostly silent this week--the only email one in response to one I had to send him concerning his medals. So, radio silence exists in the Mid-Atlantic states, too. Take care and keep lifting praise to the Almighty Lord. He is ALWAYS worthy.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Time to head out of my library computer nook here, though it is so nice here I wouldn't mind moving in. haha.
I think I will go fix up my belgian waffles supreme from scratch (not a out of the box kinda guy) w/ real maple syrup. I will of course be having to fend off Rue the "foodie" from my plate. Wish me luck. She belongs on the cover of something selling products.
My stand continues for M and the family, per God's wishes.
Love your new thread title. How are mom and dad doing in the new homestead?
They seem to be managing ok. They are having to semi-rough it and be nomads for a bit longer cuz while they are now in the community that they will be permanent residents of, their actual brand new apartment was not done simultaneous with their move out date from the old house. SO they spent several nights w/ me initially then out to a friends of their that live in the new community (1 night) then into a very nice "cottage" (so called)for another couple weeks and then the final spot will be ready for them on Thanksgiving week or thereabouts. My parents are adaptable and they have needed to be as you can tell. My mom keeps it all moving smoothly. Thanks for asking.
Originally Posted By: SMW
Thank you for checking on me throughout the weekend. D17 and I are reaching an accord. As for H, he has been mostly silent this week--the only email one in response to one I had to send him concerning his medals. So, radio silence exists in the Mid-Atlantic states, too. Take care and keep lifting praise to the Almighty Lord. He is ALWAYS worthy.
Glad to hear about you and D17. Has she always gone to church? Oh, I am in the Mid-Atlantic states as well (I used to have PA in my location but switched it in case any unintended parties were on my tail ..IRS, KGB, FAA, FBI, ATF dog-catcher and oooohhh yeah my darling W too LOL)
May the Lord continue to guide you and embolden you in your Stand.
