Marriage with WAW ended, but...

[brantacan]

AZdoc,

I appreciate your insight and agree that as long as OM is in picture there is no chance for a new intimate R, however, I've moved past all of the anger and spite, etc...Moved past that a long time ago. I don't agree with how my ex handled things, but in my case the M is over and the worst is behind us. I do not harbor any bitterness, and just don't feel the need to ignore her simply because our M ended. The reality is, I did and do feel sympathy for her for what she had to go through and what she's probably going through now (I don't know exactly how she's feeling now, but she's given me some clues, and I don't think she's happy)and I'm in a position where I can offer her unconditional friendship. The other point to make is that, in my case anyway, the S and D provided a needed wake up call for me. I'm not sure I would have made the changes I needed to make if she wouldn't have left. It's ironic, unfortunate, but so true While it's been a trying 17 mos, I can truly say I'm a better person for using the time as an opportunity as opposed to a reason to make excuses and place blame.