My son developed a cough today and we kept him indoors. My STBXW stayed home today too. Unusual...and..I got to be with my kids today on a Sunday. First time that I can remember in a long time.
Tonite, after she did house chores. She asked my son if he wanted to go with her to FIL/MIL's house. D5 was asleep. He said no..that..he hadn't gotten to see me and his sis. Although not a hard push on this...she made him feel a bit guilty. As she walked away, I leaned over to him and in a soft voice I tried to tell him it was "OK". She caught this...stormed over to me...and screamed at me at the top of her voice, "YOU ARE UNDERMINING ME AS A PARENT."
After she left, I went to tell my son that there would be times that he would NOT WANT TO BE WITH ME. I told him that that was OK...that all he would have to do is just tell me, give me a hug...and give me a call later, etc. Of course, she doesn't get to see or know the balance I try to provide to him. I NEVER laud him for making those decisions...only tell him that he is free to decide what he wants to do WHEN allowable (eg, unless it's something we must go to as a family).
Anger.
Contempt.
All that is left for me.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
