Wow, all your input is so insightful, thank you all.

Ms M, it was really helpful to hear of your experience thank you so much for posting. I do feel very detached now and have no expectations of anything from sending this email. I just know that I have to do it to be true to what I want so I have decided to send it this week. Ms M you are right, I am tired of pretending nothing is happening and I am now ready to move into whatever direction life takes me.

T, I have read the Dobson book. In fact I had just started reading it before I found out about all this as I think I was getting pretty near the end of my tether with him. I do agree that this is a longer term thing rather than shorter term. I do hope it will spark something in h's mind, a seed of doubt is all I want. I certainly don't think it will enforce his sterotype of me as it is definitely doing something different so that is a good thing.

Ali, thank you for being a good friend. You have really made me think and that is a good thing. I have to disagree that in both cases it hasn't worked. I think that it didn't scare off the WAS and that is something the rest may come later, or it may not. Time will tell...

Life in general... I am struggling a bit with loneliness. I am fine when I am with people and am busy most of the time. In fact I saw my Mum today and she told me off for never being in and said she was worried about me and worried for the cat being alone a lot (her way of saying she was worried about me, the cat is fine btw \:\) ). Coming back from holiday was a bit of a turning point for me and coming back to this house is not doing me any good. For me now, I shall have to look into alternatives... or just get over it, one of the two

M- May 2006
D - Aug 2010
Now travelling the world