I was thinking about something that my psycologist told me. He said that about a year ago, his wife said that she didn't think he was the right man for her. She had been looking at another man and thought he was all that and a bag of chips. Instead of being angry and all that stuff he fully supported her. He told her to take two weeks with this man and see if she thought it was the right thing to do. It turned out that they are still together and still married.
How does this equate to what I'm doing? Well, since my wife wants to play the game so much, maybe she will like it if I fully supported her playing it? I remember in an email that she sent to someone else who then in turn sent it to me, said that she just wants to play the game and me leave her alone and stuff. Maybe if I fully supported her playing the game it would give her the freedom to play and not think that I want to make her quit. Then maybe she would think that I'm truly releasing my resistive behavior and maybe she would stop running even less when it comes to our relationship. I mean hell, at this point she is leaving at some point. Maybe if I fully supported her in playing the game that she would trip out a bit and relax even further.
Not sure - what do you guys think? I don't want her to have to feel like she has to hide her game playing at all from me and I guess if I can't beat them join them. I wouldn't be playing nearly as much as she does but maybe she would feel much more comfortable about it and maybe she would invite me in. The more I tighten my grip, the more she slips through my fingers. Maybe this is one area where I could relax quite a bit and it just might do wonders to our relationship.
