Whether or not to check-in with H

[MrsJJJ]

<Try thinking about the saying that actions speak louder than words. Then be very aware that your actions show love and kindness from a distance for now.>

I, too have done a 180 and have not seen or heard from my H for weeks. In fact, our anniversary was last Monday and as most of you said...the day was totally ignored. Although I cried when I came home from work...I did not acknowledge him at all either. The first piece of mail came from him a few days ago...but all it was...was a copy of a money order for the car payment he said he would pay. Nothing else. No..hope you are okay, how are the kids, nothing. In turn, I have not even emailed him a thank you.

Going back to the quote above....how are our actions being seen or heard if they are not even looking? How is my H going to know if I have been changing if he fails to remember I even exist? It is obvious that I feel like I have to compete with the OW to keep my H...but how will he be able to compare if the OW is all he sees?