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BM: When I was in grade school, the teachers used to say that a special needs kid (they weren't called that, back then) was a special gift from God. I never really understood that, until much later.

But yes, I think they were absolutely right.

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Sir, I couldn't agree with you more on today's list of things you're thankful for!

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Today I am thankful for....

  • new opportunities and challenges at work. With the economy going the way it is going, some poeple are thankful to just have a job. Well I am thankful for that, but I am also thankful that my boss is putting so much confidence in me. This morning he asked me to take on some additional responsibility. he knows all about my personal situation, and told me he is going to be there supporting me every step of the way. This is really something. A bunch of other people came by my office today to offer congrats on the new position. Lots of people have confidence in me. Maybe they know something I don't? Or maybe I just forgot!
  • memory. I went for a run this morning in my neighborhood. I haven't been running regularly because of my knee surgery. It's not yet a regular thing for me again, it's still novel. And because it's a novelty, I am not mindless about it. As I ran, I remembered all the times I used to run in my old neighborhood, I'd greet the neighbors. I could see in my mind the road surface, the trails, the hills and turns and trees and landmarks. Then I remembered running when I was in college. It's great to be able to remember, to think back at all the miles I've traveled, all the difficulties I've faced. And looking back, I know that I can face the future, too.
  • fall weather. It was wet and rainy this morning but warm. It felt good to just feel the rain on my face and my head.
  • Patience. People say you can never been too thin or too rich, but I think, too, you can never have too much Patience. Today I got a message from the wife that bugged me. It was about money - car insurance. I felt like saying, "are you frigging kidding me?! B^#&@*($ !@#$ $@#!@^ %$(#." But I didn't. And I thought - huh, I can do this. Water off a duck's back. I am not patient enough yet, but I am more patient today than I was last month, and I will be more patient next month than I am today.
  • the weekend! I am looking forward to hanging with my chillun all weekend. It's gonna be rainy, so I am hoping we'll be inside and get lots of snuggle time.
  • support from friends. I have this one good friend who constantly pulls me back to center. When I am down he talks about the future. I cannot not afford a new car but he is encouraging me to start planning now - "what kinda car will you buy when you are able to do it? Finally you will be able to get a car for yourself. " It won't be for a couple years, but he has me thinking long term. Dreaming. He does the same thing in other ways, too.


So what are you all dreaming about? What kind of car will you buy when you get the chance? What trips will you take?


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SPM, good for you that your boss is feeling confident about you!
Maybe you are more confident for having gone through all this. Like you could get through anything now or you are stronger than you thought, ya know!

Or maybe you dont see yourself as others do. Or it could be you forgot - age and turmoil does that to you - LOL!

Yes, patience is the key. Master that and you are good to go. I always try to remember not to sweat the small stuff. Oh yeah and counting to 20 before speak. I am learning to accept people as they are. Cant change them, nor should we try.

Yay for hanging with your kids! I spent a lovely hour and a half ride with my son and it was heaven. He is just the best!

And tonight I am going to be babysitting my 8 year old niece and one year old nephew. So its High School Musical for the 100th time and nail polishing and talking about the boy she thinks is cute. Then its dinosaurs, dinosuars, dinosaurs and I think we will make a zoo out of blocks with my nephew - whoo hoo - I love it all!

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BM, somebody told me that at work - "you're just so steady, doesn't matter what happens." The person is not aware of my personal situation. Hmmm... I hadn't thought of it that way.

Cool that you are enjoying the young ones.
that you are accepting people.
that you are not sweating the small stuff.

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Sirprize that is great about the job. What a thoughtful boss. Patience that is the name of the game. We have had to learn that well.

I am still trying to master it.

Dreaming.......that I want a mercedes. Nothing in the near future, but I can dream.


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Hi Sir-
I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate the insightfulness of your posts. You give some very good advice.

I wish I was able to articulate what I am thankful for like you. He is my attempt...
  • A four day weekend with my kids...even if they want to spend most of it with their friends.
  • Having this board to come to for comfort when times get tough
  • Beautiful crisp fall weather
  • The time I had with my sweet little dog
  • Lazy Sunday mornings

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GG, I know I am fortunate to have that man as my boss. He is demanding professionally, but compassionate personally. A person of character. I lucked out.

Upside! I always liked that name, so optimistic.
I'm glad you think I am sometimes able to offer some insight. I'm hoping to just lend a different perspective to people. We all need that sometimes. a different look. a step back.

Upside, I like your list.

Here's mine for today. I am thankful today for...
  • Lasagne I was set to make a teriyaki flank steak for the kids this weekend, but my daughter (10) had other ideas. She wanted lasagne, so lasagne is what we had. Special trip to the store and everything. I was so glad to do it because she wanted me to. We brought all the stuff and then my 13-year old son and I made the lasagne. Bechamel sauce and everything - a recipe from Emeril. It was not exactly "Cooking Light" but what the heck. It came out great! Everybody loved it.
  • Hide and seek we planned a movie night at home last night, but all 4 kids had to get bathed first. Once a week whether they need it or not! While we waited for the boys to finish their showers, the girls and I played hide and seek in the house, what a blast! My 10 yr old is really good.
  • Work For some reason my girls wanted to play "work" this weekend, so they made desks on the windowsills, got office supplies, and got to work. I was the boss. They kept asking me for more work. I had them send out bills, do the payroll, my 10 year old even did the accounts receivable and balanced the books! This was so neat.
  • Foot rubs and tickles - I gave my 6-yr old daughter a foot rub last night and she loved it. She just kept switching feet for me. "Keep going daddy!" You know I loved THAT. And then today she was doing a spider tickle song on my back. What a joy.
  • hopes for the future My (almost) 12 year old wants to go camping with me, he said "only if it's in the mountains." He wants the real stuff. And he also wants to play racquetball with me. We were doing this before his mother put a stop to it. We'll do it again, soon. I love thinking about the future with these special souls.


ps: yes, the "they bathe once a week" crack was a joke.

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SPM,

You sound look an awesome dad!!!
Your kids must feel so proud to call you dad!!

How is it that yr WAW let you go??

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Hmmmm--teriyaki flank steak or lasagne. Now that's a tough choice! Sounds like a wonderful weekend!!


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bomb-5/18/08
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D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012
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