My wife Danielle and I have been having issues for awhile, and back in May of this year I picked up the SSM book after hearing about it. The book was like it was saying exactly what I was feeling and I managed to connect well with it on a lot of areas. My wife and I had been doing marriage counseling for a bit as the physical, affection and intimate side of our relationship had pretty much gone down to near nothing. After being married for ten years, having two daughters and plenty of work to do along with maintaining a house, it all came down to....
She just doesn't care for sex. Nor is she really an affectionate person. I've come to realize that I really do need these things, which is why I'm glad we're in a poly relationship since I can get the needs met elsewhere. But I still want these things with her and it's getting to an area where it's difficult to be around her because all I can think of is what we're going through. And all she can say is that things are fine and that she's happy, even knowing how unhappy I am...
Just at a loss as to how to deal with a sex dead marriage at this point and getting past this point to accepting it I guess.
