Guess what.. I was guilty on all counts, repeatedly
Yep. Me too. But (old cliche about to hit you), we learn the most from our mistakes, don't we? I know I do!
And yes, you are soooo right about feeling pretty darn detached, then boom. Something hits you. I used to worry about this, finding something out about xH's life and backtracking. But now, the 'bombs' are smaller (what could be bigger than "I am having an affair and want a divorce"? Seriously! lol) and I am back on my feet SO much sooner.
Plus, the bombs are a tool to help us detach even more.
