I can relate to the D process dragging on......ugh. The waiting. But it will come. It is very fortunate that you have a job in this sucking economy - I've never seen it this bad. I'm also fortunate that I'm in a position to have a stable job that, well, proves to be stable considering we are in the web design/marketing business, but our budgets are frozen, so we are lucky to get any raises or promotions - they still happen but at a snails pace.
Just curious, are you asking for less than the appraisal? It might have to come to that, but it's really the homeowner's call. I sold my house (1950 sq ft) for 210,000 last year and it was appraised for 240,000 just the year before. I'm lucky that it just sold, and I couldn't afford the mortgage payments after my W left at the time. Oh, and I was facing foreclosure. I do plan to buy a home later on, but I have a ton of cleaning to do regarding my finances, studying for and changing careers, and keeping up with GAL!
It sucks that your stbx is in the same house. I know how nutty that must drive you! Being with your little girl all the time makes it bearable. You'll have a good holiday season if you want to make it that way, but I do understand your sitch better now.
((((Olive)))))
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
I'm curious but I don't trust these people.. They're all nuts!
They ARE all nuts!!! You know me, I was friends with OW's H before the affair. Not close, but we knew each other as couples. You know my story, we chatted on and off through the affair and after. Haven't talked in awhile, both of us decided its not needed anymore (although he smiles and yells "HI AMY" at school functions, OW hates this. ha!). Anyway, he had his best interests at heart (saving his marriage, getting my xH out of his wife's life), so you are right, I didn't trust him either.
Funny, though, I trusted him the most of the 3 of them: him, OW and even my husband at the time. Still would actually.
I guess you could talk about custody/kid things. I can imagine he doesn't want your H around his kids, as much as you don't want her around your daughter. I suppose you could try to arrange it where the kids aren't together around them as much, but we all know, we can't stop what happens.
I am still so mad that your H moved back into the house!!! Grrr!! These selfish people!!!
Our games are just beginning. Hus wants to try to stay in the house, and buy me out. Good luck, buddy. I really don't care what you do, just give me my dam* divorce. (venting in progress) And while you're at it, give me my kids, my money, and I'd like the last 20 years of my life back, please. Goldey is going to try to remain calm this week, and let her L do the talking. Focus on GAL, her babies, and work. And finding some better friends. Peace.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
LO, glad to hear from you. I agree about the OW's xh email. It's interesting to think about the situation. You and him are not enemy, also not friends. Yet both of your lives are so related together in this situation.
Your STBX is just so selfish in staying in the house. unblievable. Don't think about the holidays so much if you are not in the mood. If you are, go enjoy it. If not, consider it one year that you are taking a rest from all the activities. A laid back vacation. My H is shopping for wine at this very minute. So go have a glass (a virtual one from me), and relax with some good music with your DD. Personally, I can't wait to do that after my midterm :-)
and now I understand you a whole lot more. Stbx's gf#2 doesn't look like a good person, she may/may not be, made think about our custody agreement. Three days is plenty I think for her dad to have her. How's that going anyways?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Just curious, are you asking for less than the appraisal?
Hey Sol.. Well.. I am in a market where people don't actually look at appraisals but at the ups and downs of the actual market. It's weird but most who buy the houses around me pay cash. We'll see... I hope it things start to look up.
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I guess you could talk about custody/kid things. I can imagine he doesn't want your H around his kids, as much as you don't want her around your daughter. I suppose you could try to arrange it where the kids aren't together around them as much, but we all know, we can't stop what happens.
I thought about that lwb. I think ow is trying to arrange it so that she moves her kids out of their current school district and into mine. Talking to her xh could help him understand how much he needs to do to prevent that! Or.. he could throw me under the bus!! Who knows... So far, I have not responded to him.
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and now I understand you a whole lot more. Stbx's gf#2 doesn't look like a good person, she may/may not be, made think about our custody agreement. Three days is plenty I think for her dad to have her. How's that going anyways?
Yes Cat.. it is so tough when the girlfriend is questionable.
My situation is still horrible. I have compromised all I can and he won't budge on his position. Things are about to get really ugly.
LO, Sorry to hear things aren't going well right now. I don't get your STBX. He couldn't wait to get away from you and now that you want him away he won't go! Uggghhh! What an A$$!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
You know me, I was friends with OW's H before the affair. Not close, but we knew each other as couples. You know my story, we chatted on and off through the affair and after. Haven't talked in awhile, both of us decided its not needed anymore (although he smiles and yells "HI AMY" at school functions, OW hates this. ha!). Anyway, he had his best interests at heart (saving his marriage, getting my xH out of his wife's life), so you are right, I didn't trust him either.