Cinders I can empathise with what you are saying here. My H is very similar. Even my son has noticed it. My H took son to a works dinner when son came home he said it was like his dad had a totally different personality!! He said he saw him outside chatting up two women, laughing and joking.

My son may have got the wrong end of the stick … it isn’t his perception that is important just the fact that he noticed the difference in his fathers personality.

The changes in my H are so dramatic that they actually scare me. I wonder if I ever knew him at all… is this the real H or was the man I was married to the real person.

You are not alone in experiencing this – not that that makes it any easier to understand ..

Nutty x

Be The Greener Grass.


Me 40
H 42
Son 11
Married 15 years.
Left May 2006 after gambling spree
I had EA August 2006
OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!)
I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.