I just wanted to say something concerning my posts to you yesterday. I really don't want to come across as a know it all or that I am telling you what to do.
I have already made every single DB mistake, and if I am able to help someone else get though this difficult transition, then I know it was worth it.
Piecing is hard.
It is about doing 180's every single day and not reverting back to the "old" you.
The changes have to be real.
Asking for his opinion.
Making him feel as though this is his home and he has a say in what goes on.
Allowing him to make decisons regarding the children, and supporting him.
Letting him make choices and agreeing to them.
I know you know this, BUT sometimes we allow our pride in the way of things and we have to change this mode of thinking.
When push comes to shove, your Marriage has to be the priority relationship. This is the Man you have been fighting for and this is why you are here posting.
The next time you are faced with a decision, let the person know that you will get back to them after you have discussed it with your Husband.
Again, the changes have to be real...
I have seen people here who say they have changed and as soon as they are faced with something, they quickly revert back to how they really are. Then they post, wondering why their Spouse wants nothing to do with them. This is exactly why their Spouse stays away, they know they truth. The changes were never real, and the surface changes were merely another form of manipulation.
It has to be a conscious choice to not do more of the same.
MLC'ers will constantly test the LBS, and this is your chance to shine brightly as the new improved GG.....And I know you can really do this.
(((hugs)))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
