Cinders, Remember...they were masks for different situations. With you, the mask is dropped, stowed away because he knows he can be the "old/real" h w/you and you won't buy into the new and improved person he portrays himself to be to others.
When he is with others, another mask comes out and is put into place. This mask is very difficult to wear 24/7. It's putting on a show that says "hey, look at me....I'm young, doing my own thing and I am the can do man". He isn't always going to be that happy man, there are times when he's so tired and depressed about the situation. That young lady doesn't have a clue and when it all catches up w/him, she's going to see a different side of him all together.
She's excited to have caught an older man, a man w/a good job, good standing in the community. In my world she's called a "gold digger". There will come a time when he'll start to tell her what he wants and how he wants it. Right now, the euphoria of that relationship is still running strong. Why? Because he's really not had a lot of time to focus on himself or to think about what he's done to you and his little family. He's still in the running mode.
Cinders, as you continue to detach and move on w/your life, you are going to start seeing and hearing the curiousity he has about your life. Why? Because you aren't allowing him to be the center of your world any longer. He's going to start to sense that you've moved on and he has lost you in some ways. That's okay. He needs to understand that he can't have the best of both worlds and that one day your world will change completely and that is when his world will be rocked to the core because Cinders will no longer be there for him, as you've always been in the past.
Cinders, I do hope and pray that he gets his act together very soon and realizes what he had at home.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
