I think I'm done......saddened, but strong.....

[Dawn of Hope]

SC,
I know what you mean about having been each other's "one and only" and how precious it was. I feel like my H is contaminated now that he has been with someone else. I don't even want to touch him these days (not that there's been any interest from the other side). If it weren't for the number of other people who have managed it, I wouldn't believe it possible to get past that. I'm still not entirely convinced that I can do it, but I would guess that is how most people in our sitch felt when they found themselves faced with this dilemma. You never know until you're in the midst of it, I guess.

I have no doubt that it is difficult with OW having been a friend. But it sounds like the vote here is pretty much unanimous--DO NOT seek to talk to her, at least not for a while. Let your H flap in the breeze too, and focus on yourself and your kids. Good for you for those GAL activities!

Something just occurred to me, and I'm sure I'm not the first person to think of this, but I haven't seen it discussed before... You know how a bone that has been broken and then healed properly is stronger at the break than anywhere else? Maybe people and marriages are like that. They have to be "broken" in order to be better and stronger than before. Likewise, bones need stress to strengthen enough to do their job properly, even when not broken (that's why weight-bearing exercise is important). Maybe that analogy applies here too.

Okay, just some thoughts to leave with you before I head off to bed. Take care of yourself!

Peace,
Dawn