I think your right Peace, I feel my H is stuck this way too. But I also believe that it is just easier for them to stay in this limbo than to end with OW and make a commitment to come back to the M.

My H swore sooo many many times that he was NOT coming home. That it was OVER. It may be too hard for him to go against his own word, and his belief that it is over. That and the fact that SOOO many have told him that he should go back home.

I think it really is a pride, guilt, and cowardly thing with them. I just pray that one day our H's will find the strength to do what is right, whatever that may be...

M41
H42
D17
Adopted N14
M22 T24
"Bomb" 4/07
Sep 8/07
Admitted OW 11/07(only to me)
OW back 12/4/07
PA on off thru 7/08
says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08
D final 7/09
Moving on and up!!