Hey Julia, I think you misunderstood me. Yes, be honest, be more upfront, be true to yourself, be more your old self, I agree. And yes, I think you should definetly tell him you know, as I sai and I wasnt suggesting you ignore it and I can see its what you want, but I still maintain the language of it sounds a bit odd. Thats all I meant.
I am glad you are 'done' pandering to his guilt, good for you. Are you done in any other ways, since you found out this news? I agree you have nothing to lose.. maybe thats more of a reason to just be honest, be yourself? This email sounds very DBesque to me, but I dont see where it will get you. I do regret taking that advice myself and I wish I could turn the clock back. All I can say to you is, think carefully about it first, listen to your heart and your intution and not your mind.
Its a shame he didnt speak to you face to face, but emailed. Whats wrong with these guys !??? So much cowardice! I hope you had a good night out? Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread