Single parenting and dating again.....

[~Sol]

Just thought I'd chime in my own thread. I've been thinking about dating in general, and also fighting those "lonely feelings", but I keep telling myself that this is nonsense to do because I once had various GF's and then I met my XW, and I shouldn't dwell on feeling "lonely" - ah, just natural I guess. And I also need to remind myself that I AM an attractive guy, and I also have certain "types" of women that appeal to me, so dating will come. But still, the pain from the previous R seems to find its way through my suppression of it when I find myself alone at home. That's one of the reasons to just get out, and be around other people. Sometimes my thoughts follow me as I enter a bookstore. But then I see the same gal that serves my coffee or hot cocoa and she is always in a good mood, always smiling at customers - man the bookstore found an excellent employee in THAT young woman! It's funny, when I come up to order and she tends to me, I am not sure if she is flirting with me or that's just the way she is? So I lie to myself and tell myself she's flirting with me - so I flirt back! Anyway, I don't have the nerve to socialize with her with the intent of asking her out, but I do mingle with her a bit. I guess that's just the safety mechanism I am using until I feel more comfortable dating again. To be honest, I'd rather get to know the person over time, build a friendship, and THEN ask them out of something develops. Again, is this just a way to protect my heart and not fall for the first nicest woman I see?

For once, it would be nice for a woman to approach me and ask me out, but I know what some here will say - "maybe the woman that likes me is waiting for ME to ask first?" Ahhh, the dilemma. And then there's the confident thing again for men, I know. Well I thought I was ready for dating, but not just yet I suppose. It's only been a very short time since ending my M, but at least me and the ex are starting to get along a little more as time passes. I really hate fighting with my ex - just ugly!

Well I will post some more later, I have a singles meet to go to - Game Night!!!! Yeepee. Thanks Wii for that site!

Laters!