'we are NOT going anywhere like this...". He replied he thinks we are...
Just wanted to make an observation about this, from a male perspective.
You are waiting for his actions, and rightfully so. I believe the jury is still out as to whether or not he is willing to do what must be done to make a proper marriage.
But this line perhaps sounds to him like your ASSESSMENT of things currently. I say that because HIS remark ALSO sounds like an ASSESSMENT of things currently.
I believe you are trying to send a strong message.
And I believe he is not interpreting it correctly.
Things are peaceful between you, and he knows that you have been hurt and are uncertain about the future.
In his language, he is trying to tell you that he believes the future is bright.
Perhaps it is a small point. But if you are saying things like this to him, expecting that it will possibly provoke certain ACTIONS by him, the miscommunication could leave you wanting.
I know you are unable to lead him to you, and personally I find no fault in that. He does not realize that he lost you. He does not realize that he is now in the position of having to win your love once again. And I can understand if part of you inside feels like this is HIS problem - perhaps even indicative of his inability to "get" you the way he should.
Well, not really sure what I'm eventually trying to tell you. And not completely sure that I'm not talking in circles. This is just something that stood out to me as I caught up on your thread.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
