Stage 1.75

[Separated]

You are right, it probably is not going to be a big deal at all. I think I just got nervous and panicked after as I realized that this was a "normal" thing that I would have done and I didn't want it to seem like pressure on him I guess, I don't know I think crazy sometimes!!! ;p

Actually if he was upset about it I most likely would have received a response by now telling me to leave his crap alone...lol. Since I have not received that text then I think I am in the clear!!! And it is also true that he does not always respond to all of my texts, I guess if me doing it for him wasn't a big deal there was no need for a response anyway. Hmmm that's a positive way to look at it. Thanks!!!!!

Tomorrow is his B-day I think I'll send him a cutesy text either at midnight or early in the morning.

[daisy282]

I say no harm, no foul.

It's not a big deal Sep. But I think it is great that you are aware and mindful of how your actions can come across to him. That is huge!

Keep on truckin' lady, you're doing wonderful!

[Separated]

No big news just a tiny tid bit..... H texted just asking if I had something in the house, no mention of the text last night at all. Oh well......

[Separated]

I text H at midnight 'Happy Birthday' then in the morning I texted him 'Have a good day old man ' When he got up he texted me back 'Good Morning, Thank you!!! ' then later in the morning I decided to text him a again that he was welcome to pass by tonight if he wanted to and he immediatly responded with a thank you... but no indication if he would. Well I figure he could have wrote no but didn't. LoL

I have decided to try to be a little aggressive and test my boundries, so far so good as he is responding more so it is not scaring him away.

[istherehope]

Hi Sep,

I think it's great that you're testing the boundaries. It seems like he responds positively to you every time you reach out, so until he doesn't, seems worth a try!

I think a "thank you" response is pretty positive in fact.

Thinking good thoughts for you...

ITH

[Separated]

So just a little journaling right now.....

Yesterday I checked on H myspace and he had this music video of a woman begging a man not leave her for another woman and he had a head line about looking at the video. So after seeing it I texted him "Very intense video..." from there we started this whole convo about the meaning and outcome and our different perspectives of what was going on via text.

The whole convo left me a little emotional as it made me realize how much I missed our intense conversations...this was one of the first chats that we had in forever that wasn't just filler talk but about an actual topic. We just ended the convo when I had to go to work and I told him that he was still welcome to come over later but he never responded to that and he did not pass by.

The one positive thing was my reaction to everything...I used to have the habit of everytime he listened to a song or read a book I would always try to look for a deeper meaning and try to figure out how it related to us and this would always agravate him as he thought some things you could just like with out there being a meaning that had to relate to real life. So I did this yesterday and did not relate any of our talk to our situation and just dissected the video for what it was just a video.

I hope this is a sign of us being able to relate to more things and have more talks and eventually spending time together.

Ok off to work now!!!

Ohhhh P.S. I have 2 job interviews next week....one of which is a 'dream' job!!!!

[istherehope]

Hi Sep,

I think this is a very good sign! It seems like you are closing in on stage 2! Seems like being able to discuss a non-emotional topic at length is a good indication of being in the friend stage...

Sorry he didn't come over, but I'm sure he will soon.

Ooh the dream job! Did you write about this one by chance?

ITH

PS Sending you a message on FB...

[optimistwife]

Hi Sep,

Lots and lots of good steps forward. It really sounds like your interactions have picked up... And he isn't backing off as quickly.

I think it is a great sign that you are starting to have meaningful discussions again. Don't you get tired of the superficial DB stuff after a while?


Good luck with the Job interviews... Hopefully your dream job and dream H both happen!

[istherehope]

Hi Sep,

Any updates or news today?

Thinking good thoughts for you...

ITH

[Separated]

Thanks for the good thoughts!!!

Nothing really to report haven't heard from him since Friday!! Grrrr. Oh well it's not like I do talk to him everyday anyway. I have to send him a text later anyway telling him about a piece of mail he received.

I had a pretty good weekend. I worked on Saturday but yesterday my BF called me at 8am and told me to get out of bed and come to her house, she was cleaning her car (It was a beautiful fall day) and I should go over and enjoy the sun!! LoL I wanted to kill her at first but it was fun, we washed our cars then went to the mall and out to eat.

Then I went home watched my shows and made it to bed at a decent hour. So today I am refreshed and wide awake.