I am sorry you are feeling so down. It is very gut-wrenching when the OW have contact with our children. It is so not right. Also, the anxiety of the legal situation can be very trying. Remember, there will be an end to all of this. It will get better, I promise. Hold your head up and walk with confidence. You have done nothing wrong. You will eventually see H's and OW's life fall apart. It takes time, but your kids will see who the parent is that has integrity and character. You are a wonderful person, don't forget it. Don't let them trample your self-esteem or importance.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11