Goingforward is going to be a good resource for you. Whenever we look deep within ourselves we grow. You are doing that. The only person you can change is yourself. Use her advice, see if it makes a difference in your communication with your husband. Goingforward has dealt with the gambling addiction and can help you with that.
You are a strong person. It takes a very strong wife to make changes when their husband is doing things that are seemingly and realistically much worse. My husband is like you.
